Relationship Rescue & Repair
Relationships are like a garden, they need to be tended in small ways on a consistent basis.
Men often address life and its challenges in a head down fashion. We get wrapped in our duties, we forge ahead, we absorb hurts and redirect them, we distance ourselves from pain, and we overmedicate in a search for some bright spot or meaning to justify the effort.
In many ways we plow through life, and sooner or later find we lack the ability to overcome what we have accumulated.
Because we can suffer longer (pride here would only predict your eventual failure), by the time we allow ourselves to be aware of our own suffering, those around us are often reaching their limit. And by the time we are actually ready to admit we can’t figure this out on our own, it may be too late. At that point, you will suffer greatly in every possible way, live a diminished life until you hopefully recover AND very likely go on to repeat your mistakes because, after all, you are the architect of your life and past performance is the best predictor of future results. If you let one garden decay, you’re likely to let another go.
Common signs that you need to take emergency action include:
You feel frequent criticism, contempt or resentment toward others or your work, or frequently feel these directed at you;
The word “divorce” being used in arguments;
Struggling with thoughts or actions around addiction or cheating;
Thinking something is wrong with you or you feel stuck;
One or both parties frequently avoids conversation or cuts off communication;
Feeling burned out at work or home;
Thinking everyone else is too sensitive;
You just want to move to Alaska where shit is so much more simple.
If any of the above ring true, there is a very good chance you need to act decisively, especially given that most men tend to avoid and underestimate trouble, and chronically overestimate their abilities.
In reality, you have a lot of work to do, including cleaning up what you’ve accumulated in your plow-like approach to life, assessing damage and what the relationship needs, and learning how to prevent this from happening again. And sorry, you’re not a natural at this. I mean why else would you be clicking on a Relationship Rescue button and not a What to Do When Too Many People Like You button?
When you focus on relationship rescue and repair, you will:
Quickly learn simple and effective emergency measures to rescue and then begin to repair your relationship- whether it’s with a romantic partner, a child or parent, or a sibling or friend.
Explore the full scope of your abilities and tools, and sharpen and hone them- even the rusty ones you left in the corner- so you can be a master gardener.
Understand the new potential of all of your relationships.
Gain the meaningful presence and impact that others need from you so badly.
Naturally gain the ability to make new and meaningful relationships
Rejuvenate your deepest relationships, find joy in simply being together, and open worlds together that neither of you knew existed.
You can try to learn and then apply everything you need to know and hope to turn things around in a few months to a year, if it lasts that long, or you can rescue your relationship now and save what you’ve been working so hard for. You can make it what it’s crying out to be in the depths of your heart, and enjoy the fruits of your labor for decades to come. It’s your choice. Think deeply, listen to your heart, and make it a good one.
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